Comments on: What Do I Do When My Spouse And I Aren’t On The Same Page?

By: Jeffrey Levine

Jeffrey Levine — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 23:06:22 +0000

I love the premise of your post: “marriage is designed as a place to grow up.” This, in a very powerful way, makes it clear that we’re responsible for ourselves and our role in a marriage. I would like to share a formula I use: Effective communication = Authenticity plus Timing minus Blame. When we can be completely real about our feelings, express them at the right time, and remove blame and judgment, there’s a much better chance we will communicate respectfully. Thank you for a very insightful post.
-Jeffrey Levine

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By: Kika

Kika — Fri, 22 May 2009 01:18:23 +0000

I totally agree about not discussing an important issue after 9:30/10 pm or so. I don’t respond well when I’m tired. My husband and I haven’t discussed this but I should bring it up some time.

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By: Kristen

Kristen — Thu, 21 May 2009 11:39:10 +0000

I too am a very wordy wife and have a man of few words. He did tell me once that if I wanted to talk and talk and talk, I could and he would listen, but I can’t expect him to respond. So when he expects me to keep the house as clean as he wants it, I don’t mind when he chooses to do it himself. Balance and choosing your battles works for us.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Thu, 21 May 2009 03:44:26 +0000

I love the Rob Bell quote - “thousands of little conversations about how two people are going to do life together.” I just wanted to say bravo - I am a subscriber to Simple Marriage - and that the best marriages have no safety net (no divorce option), and this quote and this post really rang a bell with me in trying to achieve that nirvana. Thanks! Stephanie´s last blog post...Quote of the Day: Procrastination

By: kirwin

kirwin — Thu, 21 May 2009 03:05:03 +0000

My husband and I have been together for 16 years, 11 of those years married. In this time, we’ve learned a lot about each other. Mostly, I’ve learned to pick my battles. If it ain’t worth fighting for or about, I just let it go.

Another thing I’ve learned about my husband, is that he often needs time to think it through. I’ve learned to plant seeds. The biggest example of this was when I wanted to start having babies! I knew he would need some time to get comfortable with the idea, so I planted that seed, even when I was a few months from being “ready” myself. LOL If he had said, “Let’s go for it!” immediately, I would have been stuck, like duhhhhhh… : )

Lastly, I’ve learned to wait for the right time to talk. When he has had a stressful day, I wait until he has had a little time to unwind. I don’t want to blindside him…and I won’t get the answer I’m looking for either.

By: Rachel Porter

Rachel Porter — Wed, 20 May 2009 23:18:15 +0000

Something we've instated that I like is when we do talk about a disagreement, we try not to talk after 10p.m (we're tired ) or when we should be eating a meal (we're hungry) or when we've had a long day (we're stressed.) So, if we choose not to talk about the issue then, we decide on a time we will talk about it. This helps us both to know it WILL be talked about...and when! Rachel Porter´s last blog post...Money Management 101:Talking with Your Spouse About Money