Comments on: The Art of Listening in Relationships http://simplemom.net/the-art-of-listening-in-relationships/ Live intentionally. Sat, 11 Feb 2012 15:23:02 +0000 hourly 1 By: longchamp Hobo Bags http://simplemom.net/the-art-of-listening-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-144516 longchamp Hobo Bags Tue, 13 Sep 2011 01:25:23 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3648#comment-144516 geee geee

]]> By: Laurie http://simplemom.net/the-art-of-listening-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-62966 Laurie Thu, 12 Nov 2009 00:55:01 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3648#comment-62966 I have a very difficult time not being distracted with my thoughts or things going on around me when I am listening (or attempting to) my spouse or a friend, etc. I struggle with it so much that I am considering having testing for ADD. It's embarrassing and frustrating. I have tried to keep my eyes on the person speaking and that is helping but I am not where I need or want to be. I have a very difficult time not being distracted with my thoughts or things going on around me when I am listening (or attempting to) my spouse or a friend, etc. I struggle with it so much that I am considering having testing for ADD. It’s embarrassing and frustrating. I have tried to keep my eyes on the person speaking and that is helping but I am not where I need or want to be.

]]> By: Laurie http://simplemom.net/the-art-of-listening-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-62965 Laurie Thu, 12 Nov 2009 00:53:29 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3648#comment-62965 I have a very difficult time not being distracted with my thoughts or things going on around me when I am listening (or attempting to) my spouse or a friend, etc. I struggle with it so much that I am considering having testing for ADD. It's embarrassing and frustrating. I have tried to keep my eyes on the person speaking and that is helping but I am not where I need or want to be. I have a very difficult time not being distracted with my thoughts or things going on around me when I am listening (or attempting to) my spouse or a friend, etc. I struggle with it so much that I am considering having testing for ADD. It’s embarrassing and frustrating. I have tried to keep my eyes on the person speaking and that is helping but I am not where I need or want to be.

]]> By: How to Cultivate Intimacy in Relationships http://simplemom.net/the-art-of-listening-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-61983 How to Cultivate Intimacy in Relationships Wed, 07 Oct 2009 04:39:44 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3648#comment-61983 [...] begins with the simple things.  Notice your partner, listen to them, and offer thanks when they help out in your world. Relationships struggle when one partner says [...] [...] begins with the simple things.  Notice your partner, listen to them, and offer thanks when they help out in your world. Relationships struggle when one partner says [...]

]]> By: Jenn @ Beautiful Calling http://simplemom.net/the-art-of-listening-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-61179 Jenn @ Beautiful Calling Fri, 18 Sep 2009 01:34:49 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3648#comment-61179 I starred this in my reader because I didn't have time to really read it when you first posted it. I am glad I waited so I could full focus on what you were saying. (like you talked about LOL) I know often I am guilty of interupting a story with my own or preparing my response while the other person is talking. Eeek! Two things I will be working on! Thanks for sharing! .-= Jenn @ Beautiful Calling´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.beautifulcalling.ca/2009/09/tut-healthier-you-links.html" rel="nofollow">TUT: Healthier You Links</a> =-. I starred this in my reader because I didn’t have time to really read it when you first posted it. I am glad I waited so I could full focus on what you were saying. (like you talked about LOL)
I know often I am guilty of interupting a story with my own or preparing my response while the other person is talking. Eeek!
Two things I will be working on!
Thanks for sharing!
.-= Jenn @ Beautiful Calling´s last blog ..TUT: Healthier You Links =-.

]]> By: Angelita http://simplemom.net/the-art-of-listening-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-60802 Angelita Fri, 04 Sep 2009 04:11:47 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3648#comment-60802 This is a great topic, communication and relationship is the most problems anywhere, even in business, family, motherhood etc. I could say, don't block you mind when listening, listening at the same time understanding, there are persons that has an automatic answer in everything that you are telling them, we have different ideas in mind, even we are in the same place at the same time, we have the same experiences. This is a great topic, communication and relationship is the most problems anywhere, even in business, family, motherhood etc. I could say, don’t block you mind when listening, listening at the same time understanding, there are persons that has an automatic answer in everything that you are telling them, we have different ideas in mind, even we are in the same place at the same time, we have the same experiences.

]]> By: Amanda http://simplemom.net/the-art-of-listening-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-60791 Amanda Fri, 04 Sep 2009 00:26:18 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3648#comment-60791 I have a problem with interrupting...especially when the discussion is heated. I printed this out and gave a copy to my husband. Maybe we'll both be able to learn something from it. ;-) .-= Amanda´s last blog ..<a href="http://simplelifechronicles.wordpress.com/2009/09/02/introduction-to-routines/" rel="nofollow">Introduction to Routines</a> =-. I have a problem with interrupting…especially when the discussion is heated. I printed this out and gave a copy to my husband. Maybe we’ll both be able to learn something from it. ;-)
.-= Amanda´s last blog ..Introduction to Routines =-.

]]> By: Stacy (Mama-Om) http://simplemom.net/the-art-of-listening-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-60783 Stacy (Mama-Om) Thu, 03 Sep 2009 18:58:06 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3648#comment-60783 Thanks for this article -- respectful communication has been something I have been working on, both with my spouse and also with my children. Lately, I have been inspired to practice more silence in my days -- with my kids, I have what I call "begin with silence" days, where I try to start the day, and all my interactions, with the intention of silence. It makes a huge difference in the energy of our home, and my children really enjoy it. Really! I wrote about it <a href="http://mama-om.blogspot.com/2009/08/quiet-please.html" rel="nofollow">here</a>. As you've pointed out, being heard is so crucial and not feeling heard is often the sticking point in our tense or unsatisfying conversations. One thing that has me with is nonviolent communication. It encompasses all the points you've touched on here... giving us tools to help us listen to what people are saying by identifying the feelings and needs beneath the words. I wrote about using it with my young son <a href="http://mama-om.blogspot.com/2009/08/path-to-peace-is-filled-with-potholes.html" rel="nofollow">here</a>. I still have so much to learn -- thank you for giving me more ideas! Blessings, Stacy .-= Stacy (Mama-Om)´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Mama-om/~3/XEIeP0LYHMk/broken-cars-are-still-there-buddha-is.html" rel="nofollow">The broken cars are still there. The buddha is gone.</a> =-. Thanks for this article — respectful communication has been something I have been working on, both with my spouse and also with my children.

Lately, I have been inspired to practice more silence in my days — with my kids, I have what I call “begin with silence” days, where I try to start the day, and all my interactions, with the intention of silence. It makes a huge difference in the energy of our home, and my children really enjoy it. Really! I wrote about it here.

As you’ve pointed out, being heard is so crucial and not feeling heard is often the sticking point in our tense or unsatisfying conversations. One thing that has me with is nonviolent communication. It encompasses all the points you’ve touched on here… giving us tools to help us listen to what people are saying by identifying the feelings and needs beneath the words. I wrote about using it with my young son here.

I still have so much to learn — thank you for giving me more ideas!

Blessings,
Stacy
.-= Stacy (Mama-Om)´s last blog ..The broken cars are still there. The buddha is gone. =-.

]]> By: Corey - Simple Marriage http://simplemom.net/the-art-of-listening-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-60782 Corey - Simple Marriage Thu, 03 Sep 2009 18:45:32 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3648#comment-60782 The only thing you can do in times like this is be very clear- perhaps even write down the major things you discuss in your budget, etc. and then if he forgets because he wasn't really listening, you can refer back to what was written calmly. If you become less reactive- he'll become less reactive in time. Best of luck. .-= Corey - Simple Marriage´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SimpleMarriage/~3/Pr1x6dAsLV4/breathe.html" rel="nofollow">Breathe.</a> =-. The only thing you can do in times like this is be very clear- perhaps even write down the major things you discuss in your budget, etc. and then if he forgets because he wasn’t really listening, you can refer back to what was written calmly. If you become less reactive- he’ll become less reactive in time.

Best of luck.
.-= Corey – Simple Marriage´s last blog ..Breathe. =-.

]]> By: Jessalyn http://simplemom.net/the-art-of-listening-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-60773 Jessalyn Thu, 03 Sep 2009 15:18:03 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3648#comment-60773 That is a cool idea Corey! Thanks, I could see that being really beneficial when my husband and I are praying together. .-= Jessalyn´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.astrongfoundation.com/A_Strong_Foundation/Desiring_Virtue/Entries/2009/9/2_The_Miracle_of_God.html" rel="nofollow">The Miracle of God</a> =-. That is a cool idea Corey! Thanks, I could see that being really beneficial when my husband and I are praying together.
.-= Jessalyn´s last blog ..The Miracle of God =-.

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