BirdsAndBees

Poem: The Birds and the Bees

Does anyone find it easy to talk about sex with their kids?

I know there’s a range of comfort levels when it comes to this topic. When I was growing up, my family avoided the subject — so I’ve got plenty of anxiety when it comes to the dreaded “sex talks.”

In today’s poem, I explore the complicated emotions that go along with this challenge.
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DIY mini mei-tai baby doll carrier

There’s just something so sweet about a toddler and her baby doll (or his, for that matter; my son loves his doll and animals, too).

When we were first preparing to bring home baby number two, I decided to make a baby carrier for my daughter who was just over two at the time. I had loved wearing her in my handmade mei-tai, a gift from my sister-in-law, and decided to draft a simpler version for her to use with her favorite doll, Molly the Dolly.

Now my third baby is almost two, and just approaching that perfect age for baby-doll-wearing. She loves going in the Ergo with mommy and thus was sweetly excited to put on this mini mei-tai and carry her own baby around.

This is a simple project– easily completed in two naptimes for me.
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What potholders, tigers, and Ethiopia have in common

“Mom, I’d like to sell my potholders so that I can give the money away.” Tate, my 8-year-old said this rather nonchalantly as we were driving from school to gymnastics. She got one of those rite-of-passage potholder loop kits from the grandparents for Christmas, and she’s been a weaving machine this spring.

“I like that idea a lot, Tate. How much would you sell them for?” I asked. “Oh, something like twenty-five cents or maybe fifty cents or maybe a dollar,” she replied, quite the entrepreneur.

“What would you give the money to?”

She thought for a moment. “Well, I can’t decide between homeless people or tigers.” I tried not to laugh. “Tigers?” I asked.

“Yeah, there’s a certain type that’s endangered, and I’d like to give money to people who are helping stop that.” She’s always been an animal lover.

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I loved her heart and her ideas, so I promised we would look in to how she could give her proceeds to organizations that helped both these efforts. And then I also remembered that we’re about to launch the second phase of fully-funding some work done in an Ethiopian village.

“Hey Tate, would you also be interested in giving some of your profits to work being done in a small village in Ethiopia? It helps lots of mamas with little babies, giving them supplies they need and teaching them how to take care of them.” One of our Compassion children lives in Ethiopia, so I knew she’d recognize the country.

“Ooh, yeah! I wanna do that, too.” Bless her.

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You matter

As you start this week, may you find bravery to do the hard things on your list. May you recognize the clarion call in your life, and the humble realization that to do what you’re called to do well, it means rolling up your sleeves and getting your arm into it.

May you not be discouraged when this hard work goes unrecognized or slips through the cracks, as though it yielded no fruit. Remember that these small actions, done one day after another and another, give way to mountain-moving conditions. Think of the grains of sand that comprise the Sahara.

Keep your nose to the grindstone, and keep your eyes set on things above. And remember, if your kitchen counter wiping gets no “likes” or your words of wisdom espoused to your children are never retweeted, they DO matter. Their absence would leave a hole in your home. You matter.

And as you do those hard things on your list, may you find pleasure—surprising pleasure—in doing some of them. May you find a sliver of time to sit with a cup of tea and a book. And may you find the needed encouragement to wake up, once more, and do it all again.

Because you do matter.

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“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.’” -C.S. Lewis