Comments on: How to be Disorganized & Unproductive, #2: Aim for Perfection http://simplemom.net/how-to-be-disorganized-unproductive-2-aim-for-perfection/ Live intentionally. Sat, 11 Feb 2012 18:23:50 +0000 hourly 1 By: Torie http://simplemom.net/how-to-be-disorganized-unproductive-2-aim-for-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-74216 Torie Tue, 20 Apr 2010 20:51:35 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3615#comment-74216 Let's say I don't mind shoveling it but could they just make less of it? I tend to be a tidy as I go along person and I expect the same consideration from others. Do I get it? Of course not. They leave it for mom or the dw to take care of what they drop and run off from. So, I've learned to decide whether its worth leaving it alone so I can grab a few moments on the computer, read a book, knit or something enjoyable. So of course my house is a bit of a disaster, but I don't look at it as my house since my dh pays the mortgage and makes all the decorating decision, which is basic clutter and with touches of started a project and left it undone. Thank goodness, its basic clutter, rather then delux clutter or hoarder bound clutter or we would be divorced. Fortunately he also has good qualities, he just doesn't understand basic standards, though he does his own wash most of the time now because I ignore it. He doesn't always fold it so it sits in a basket but its clean. I figure if it doesn't bother him, it doesn't bother me. Why should I let his choices upset me or drive me nuts. I view it all as temporary and of course none of it is mine especially 99% of the messes. So who cares? I really do care, but caring for that which others don't care, is over-rated. So I made a choice, I can live happy and ignore it or insanely angry, hateful and resentfull over all of it. I choose sanity, relaxation and happiness. It's not 100% okay with me, but it could be worse. The kids are in college, though one commutes and the younger has a couple more years of high school. It will be interesting to see what the future brings will they be slobs like they perceive me to be (Its Dad, its Mom she should clean up after him. Yeah, right, I should be his shadow and follow behind him.) or will they be like their grandparents and whose house is not far off the magazine standards clean. Let’s say I don’t mind shoveling it but could they just make less of it? I tend to be a tidy as I go along person and I expect the same consideration from others. Do I get it? Of course not. They leave it for mom or the dw to take care of what they drop and run off from. So, I’ve learned to decide whether its worth leaving it alone so I can grab a few moments on the computer, read a book, knit or something enjoyable. So of course my house is a bit of a disaster, but I don’t look at it as my house since my dh pays the mortgage and makes all the decorating decision, which is basic clutter and with touches of started a project and left it undone. Thank goodness, its basic clutter, rather then delux clutter or hoarder bound clutter or we would be divorced. Fortunately he also has good qualities, he just doesn’t understand basic standards, though he does his own wash most of the time now because I ignore it. He doesn’t always fold it so it sits in a basket but its clean. I figure if it doesn’t bother him, it doesn’t bother me. Why should I let his choices upset me or drive me nuts. I view it all as temporary and of course none of it is mine especially 99% of the messes. So who cares? I really do care, but caring for that which others don’t care, is over-rated. So I made a choice, I can live happy and ignore it or insanely angry, hateful and resentfull over all of it. I choose sanity, relaxation and happiness. It’s not 100% okay with me, but it could be worse. The kids are in college, though one commutes and the younger has a couple more years of high school. It will be interesting to see what the future brings will they be slobs like they perceive me to be (Its Dad, its Mom she should clean up after him. Yeah, right, I should be his shadow and follow behind him.) or will they be like their grandparents and whose house is not far off the magazine standards clean.

]]> By: naturallycheryl http://simplemom.net/how-to-be-disorganized-unproductive-2-aim-for-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-65901 naturallycheryl Mon, 21 Dec 2009 21:29:31 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3615#comment-65901 So what I needed to read today! I've been a terror to live with, a terror that's been growing for awhile. We moved to a new area and it's hard to make friends- everyone seems so perfect. I've felt so overwhelmed with everything I think I need to do that I'm frozen with fear of messing up or not finishing it. I've even been hard on my kids for what I see now as perfectionism. I'm ashamed of my actions but glad to discover it now only a couple years in. I need to work on being myself and not worrying about every little thing! So what I needed to read today! I’ve been a terror to live with, a terror that’s been growing for awhile. We moved to a new area and it’s hard to make friends- everyone seems so perfect. I’ve felt so overwhelmed with everything I think I need to do that I’m frozen with fear of messing up or not finishing it. I’ve even been hard on my kids for what I see now as perfectionism. I’m ashamed of my actions but glad to discover it now only a couple years in. I need to work on being myself and not worrying about every little thing!

]]> By: Achados na internet – dezembro 2009 | Colorida Vida http://simplemom.net/how-to-be-disorganized-unproductive-2-aim-for-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-64673 Achados na internet – dezembro 2009 | Colorida Vida Mon, 07 Dec 2009 17:37:24 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3615#comment-64673 [...] How to be disorganized and unproductive: aim for perfection – Simple Mom Esse é para todos os perfeccionistas de plantão. Conviva com o fato de que uma casa com crianças nunca vai ser uma casa de revista. Busque a excelência em vez da perfeição. [...] [...] How to be disorganized and unproductive: aim for perfection – Simple Mom Esse é para todos os perfeccionistas de plantão. Conviva com o fato de que uma casa com crianças nunca vai ser uma casa de revista. Busque a excelência em vez da perfeição. [...]

]]> By: Good Enough | Remodeling This Life http://simplemom.net/how-to-be-disorganized-unproductive-2-aim-for-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-62967 Good Enough | Remodeling This Life Thu, 12 Nov 2009 02:33:30 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3615#comment-62967 [...] How To Be Disorganized and Unproductive: Aim For Perfection [...] [...] How To Be Disorganized and Unproductive: Aim For Perfection [...]

]]> By: I needed this… « Potpourri from Our Journeying http://simplemom.net/how-to-be-disorganized-unproductive-2-aim-for-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-60682 I needed this… « Potpourri from Our Journeying Wed, 02 Sep 2009 11:49:54 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3615#comment-60682 [...] How to be Disorganized & Unproductive, #2: Aim for Perfection, by simplemom.net [...] [...] How to be Disorganized & Unproductive, #2: Aim for Perfection, by simplemom.net [...]

]]> By: Elizabeth http://simplemom.net/how-to-be-disorganized-unproductive-2-aim-for-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-60657 Elizabeth Wed, 02 Sep 2009 02:01:35 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3615#comment-60657 wow, really wonderful points. Honestly, I was thinking that they can be applied to life as well . As a mom, I often am worried about trying to do everythign perfectly, knowing all along that perfection is not possible. I really appreciated what you wrote. One of the aspects that I have struggled with in my life the last year or so is the criticism placed on moms by other moms. I sure wish there was some rule book that could be referenced to remind moms to take a step back and realize that no one is perfect. If we shouldn't hold ourselves and our homes up to this level of perfection, we certainly shouldn't expect others to be perfect either. wow, really wonderful points. Honestly, I was thinking that they can be applied to life as well . As a mom, I often am worried about trying to do everythign perfectly, knowing all along that perfection is not possible. I really appreciated what you wrote. One of the aspects that I have struggled with in my life the last year or so is the criticism placed on moms by other moms. I sure wish there was some rule book that could be referenced to remind moms to take a step back and realize that no one is perfect. If we shouldn’t hold ourselves and our homes up to this level of perfection, we certainly shouldn’t expect others to be perfect either.

]]> By: The Delicate Balance of Parenting & Housework http://simplemom.net/how-to-be-disorganized-unproductive-2-aim-for-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-60534 The Delicate Balance of Parenting & Housework Tue, 01 Sep 2009 05:41:22 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3615#comment-60534 [...] written already about how perfectionism ultimately makes you more unproductive – but it also makes you more of a control freak. If the towels, the dishes, and the table [...] [...] written already about how perfectionism ultimately makes you more unproductive – but it also makes you more of a control freak. If the towels, the dishes, and the table [...]

]]> By: Melissa http://simplemom.net/how-to-be-disorganized-unproductive-2-aim-for-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-59813 Melissa Sat, 29 Aug 2009 03:07:15 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3615#comment-59813 Amen. I love this post Tsh. Amen. I love this post Tsh.

]]> By: Amber http://simplemom.net/how-to-be-disorganized-unproductive-2-aim-for-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-59800 Amber Fri, 28 Aug 2009 15:42:09 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3615#comment-59800 Oh my goodness gracious! This post was written especially for me! *Sighs! I am the type of perfectionist to where...if it can't be perfect, then I tend to not even TRY. How lame is that, though? I think I need to bookmark this post and come back to read it every single day of my life until it is so ingrained in me that it changes who I am...for the better. Starting today, I'm going to start pursuing excellence - not perfection!!! <3 .-= Amber´s last blog ..<a href="http://classiclyamber.wordpress.com/2009/08/15/chocolate-zucchini-nut-muffins/" rel="nofollow">Chocolate Zucchini Nut Muffins</a> =-. Oh my goodness gracious! This post was written especially for me! *Sighs! I am the type of perfectionist to where…if it can’t be perfect, then I tend to not even TRY. How lame is that, though?

I think I need to bookmark this post and come back to read it every single day of my life until it is so ingrained in me that it changes who I am…for the better. Starting today, I’m going to start pursuing excellence – not perfection!!! <3
.-= Amber´s last blog ..Chocolate Zucchini Nut Muffins =-.

]]> By: Adriana http://simplemom.net/how-to-be-disorganized-unproductive-2-aim-for-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-59791 Adriana Fri, 28 Aug 2009 12:10:43 +0000 http://simplemom.net/?p=3615#comment-59791 This is so me. The day I received this I sent an email to a friend asking for prayer to help me get all my tasks done before the baby arrives. I am going to think on pursuing excellence instead of perfection. That day it was rough, but after I read your email I got myself up and cleaned the kitchen and picked up a bit because I was deflated for sure. Thanks for this post, really spoke to my heart. Adriana This is so me. The day I received this I sent an email to a friend asking for prayer to help me get all my tasks done before the baby arrives. I am going to think on pursuing excellence instead of perfection. That day it was rough, but after I read your email I got myself up and cleaned the kitchen and picked up a bit because I was deflated for sure. Thanks for this post, really spoke to my heart.

Adriana

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