Note from Tsh: Tomorrow morning I fly out to Pennsylvania for Relevant, so I’m having Anne of The White Space Solution share this post today, giving me a few extra minutes to finalize my presentations. I loved reading her ideas here!
How many items do you have on your to-do list? How about goals? Do you have more than a few that you’d like to achieve? If you’re looking to simplify your life, likely that’s because your list is filled to the brim with goals, interests, activities, passions, people, and work.
It gets especially sticky taking action and completing anything on your master project list after you become a parent.
Since my daughter was born almost four years ago, I’ve had to adjust and reframe how I reach and set big goals in my life. It used to be so easy! But now, with a toddler in tow, a job managing someone else’s online business, a husband who needs my attention, too, writing for my own blog, writing my first book, and the myriad mommy duties, I need time and space to actually reach all those goals—and finish anything.
If your life is bursting at the seams, like mine, then you might like to know these three things I’ve learned to make space in your life, so you can actually get down to the business of getting things done.
1. You’re not lazy. You just need space.
If you’re anything like me, you’ve got lots of things you want to do. But life also happens, work tires you out, you just want lean back, take a break… and do nothing. Then what happens? You’re at the end of your week or weekend, and you regret not doing what you wanted to do.
Laziness isn’t your problem—setting priorities is.
Ask yourself if you’ve been putting something off because, as you say, you may actually be lazy. Then, decide if the issue is whether it’s actually a priority. You’ll feel empowered when you actually say it out loud. Either it is a priority, or it isn’t. You decide. Once you make this decision, you’ll feel a burst of energy.
2. Make some space to get some space.
I know, this kind of sounds like the chicken and the egg scenario, but hear me out. If you need space in one area of your life, look for easy ways to clear the clutter in another area.
Recently, someone close to me expressed her emotional stress over a relationship. She then spent the weekend cleaning out the closets in her house. By the end of the weekend, she could see the relationship more clearly, and her initial stress dissipated.
Since the closets posed no emotional stress to her, she was able to work on that space, and in some odd way, it cleared just that bit of mental room to re-evaluate what was going on in her relationship.
Do you have an area of your life that’s overwhelming you? Turn your attention to an area that doesn’t completely stress you out—and clean it up. Focusing on an area that gives you no stress, no worry, and no emotional overwhelm is often a secret back door to clearing the extra room in your life you need.
Try it. Is your body or weight making you depressed and obsessed with the scale? Spend the weekend cleaning up your receipts and paperwork, or fill your weekend with activities for you and your family. Money stressing you out? Go for a long run or hike.
3. Lose the Cs.
Photo by Koalazy Monkey
Create a master project list—dump everything from your brain onto a piece of paper. Mark the most important items with an A, the you-want-to-do-them-but-not-now with a B, and the ones you’ve been holding onto but really don’t need to do at all with C.
Cross off the Cs. Find a way to completely lose them from your list.
Even if you are never planning to do them, letting them sit on your list is weighing you down and taking up space. Just cross them off.
When you intentionally make more white space in your life, you’ll notice more mental clarity, more energy, and an increased sense of well-being.
Note from Tsh: Anne wants to give ten Simple Mom readers a copy of her new e-book, The White Space Solution! To enter the giveaway, simply leave any comment on this post. The giveaway will end Tuesday evening (tomorrow), October 25. I hope you win!
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