This post from contributor Corey Allan of Simple Marriage continues to be a favorite around here, so I thought it’s time to republish it. Hope you find it helpful like I have!
“Dadda, your penis is bigger than mine. ”
“Mommy, mommy, I have a vagina!” Stated as my daughter entered our bedroom while pulling down her panties to prove her statement.
“Why do you and mommy go on dates?”
These are all questions or statements I’ve heard from my three-year-old son and five-year-old daughter. They are also great opportunities to talk about sex, sexuality, love, and life.
For many parents, when the subject of “the talk” comes up, there is an immediate sense of dread, fear, and anxiety.
The lack of information about sex most children today are armed with stems from the anxiety surrounding the idea of teaching your children about it. Many parents believe, as perhaps you do as well, that the sex talk is something you have with your child when they’re teenagers. If this is you — um, how can I put this gently? …You’re wrong.
Teaching your children about sex and their sexuality begins at birth. And it begins with the simple labeling of their anatomy. For the record, boys have a penis and girls have a vagina (and actually the vagina is only part of the female genitalia; it actually is called the vulva). Proper labeling of things will lay the foundation for future discussions.