Thriving on intention, not busyness (and an announcement)

It’s been a doozy of a year, even though it’s been one of our best. Changes, lessons learned, kids growing up, slight job shifts… Life constantly moves, doesn’t it? 2012 has whooshed by, but when I think of January to now, I’m in awe of all I’ve learned, as a writer, as a wife, and as a mother.

I actually thrive on change, which is both good and bad. I tend to roll with the punches, but if things remain stagnant for a bit, I get restless. The longest we’ve ever lived in one home was three years, and that was overseas, which is full of crazy upheaval just by nature of geography.

But I don’t thrive on busyness. It sucks me dry, and I get lost in the liturgy of life when my focus shifts from being a person with intentional purpose to a checker of to-do lists. When my daily goals become efficiency and productivity instead of reflection and contentment.

I bet being busy sucks the life out of you, too. I believe that’s because we aren’t inherently made to be busy.

There’s a lot I miss about living overseas, but probably the thing I miss the most is a slower pace of life. It drove me crazy, this snail’s pace, when we first lived as expats—getting one thing done was a major accomplishment, and that’s enough to wad up the pants on any red-blooded American. But eventually (as in, several years) into our life, and I grew to savor a slower rhythm.

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This week, spend $5 on something that matters

One of the greatest privileges with this gig as a blogger is the opportunity to make a serious difference in people’s lives. Mandi from Life Your Way recently told me that earlier this month, a friend of hers lost her husband after a sudden, unexpected illness.

Jenny is a stay-at-home mom to five kids between 9 months and 11 years old, and is suddenly facing the task of meeting not only the emotional, physical and educational needs of her kids, but their financial needs as well.

Mandi reached out to a group of bloggers to put together a one-time ebook bundle as part of a benefit sale for the Barlow family. I’m happy to contribute One Bite at a Time to the bundle, and this week, I’m asking YOU to make a tangible difference in Jenny’s life.

For three days only, pick up the following collection of e-books—worth more than $50—for just five bucks. 100 percent of your purchase will go directly to Jenny and her kids. (Or if you’d rather donate directly to this precious family and skip the e-books, you can do that here as well.)

Head here to purchase your ebook bundle.

You’ll receive the following collection of ebooks and printables:

Update: Thank you so much for your interest in the Barlow Family Benefit! At this time, the sale has ended. Thanks to your help in getting the word out, we sold 5,619 bundles and raised more than $26,000 for the Barlow family (not including direct donations)! My heart is full for the gift you’ve all given Jenny and her kids as they walk this difficult road. Thank you! If you’d still like to donate directly, click here.

A probable explanation

I‘m over at (in)courage today, talking about how my brain and heart are all flip-floppy. From my post:

“I’ll love that our house is teeny-tiny, but then I’ll think about how nice it would be to have just one extra bedroom. Or I’ll relish in the bliss of living right at the base of mountains, and then not five minutes later, miss living near the beach.

I’ll love that the two of us both work from home, but then I’ll wonder if life would be less crazy if we had an office somewhere.

I’ll be glad we live in a small town, but a second later, I’ll wish we lived back in a big city.

Heck, I’ll even order the salad, and then look at Kyle’s burger and wonder why I didn’t order that.”

Head over to read the rest, and to tell me over what your heart wrestles, too.

Major Purge (The latest on The Simple Mom Podcast!)

The latest podcast is up! In this episode, I’m talking with my friend and Philippines teammate Stephanie Langford of Keeper of the Home. She’s become a kindred spirit this past year, since our lives are so similar—living in the Pacific Northwest, running businesses at home alongside our hubbies, and homeschooling smartypants girls.

In this episode, Stephanie and I chat about homeschooling, getting ready for a baby when you’ve already got ‘em (she’s pregnant with number four!), and balancing the life of an entrepreneurial family. Plus, she and her family recently went on a major purge throughout their house, using ideas from my book. I ask her how that went (hint: she got the flu). (Hint: that’s not typical.)

So get out your unwrapped presents and get cracking, or just brew your joe and take a break—head here to find the latest episode and all the show notes, or you can head directly to iTunes. (And if you’re so inclined, would you mind leaving a review there if you like the show? It’ll help more people find it.)

Enjoy!

When you don’t want to say thanks

Today I’m at (in)courage, talking about something I’m sure I alone experience: what to do when I just don’t feel like saying thanks. From the post:

“I change Finn’s dirty diaper, I scrunch my nose, and I murmur without a smile on my face, “Thank you God for this little body You’ve entrusted me with.”

“I open my inbox to untold unread emails and say, “Lord, thanks for this technology and these people in my life and this laptop.” I’m still bummed about all the email I need to process.

“I open the minivan door and witness the horror that is the cacophony of clutter, and I say, “God, thanks for these little people that are home with me.”

“And slowly, slowly, something miraculous happens. My heart changes. It really, really does. It’s usually not unicorns and sparkles outwardly, but it is prettier on the inside.”

What do you do when you don’t feel like saying thanks? Head here to read the full post, and to share your thoughts in the comments.