Opening our homes means risk

Written by Sandy Coughlin of Reluctant Entertainer.

Warmer connections come when we’re willing to take a chance.

If you’ve been following my 31 Days of Warm Connections series, I’m sharing today about friendships. I have friendships that go back almost 50 years—some 40, 30, 20, 10, as well as more recent friends. I’ve always told my daughter that friends are like a beautiful bouquet of flowers. The more you have, the more stunning the bouquet.

Last month, two of my newer friends came to my house on a Friday morning. All week long, I thought about my commitments, my list of chores, the last part of the garden that needed harvesting, canning, blogging … you name it. The list in my mind became overwhelming, and I tried to talk myself out of the invitation I had already made.

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Six Tips for Hosting a Dinner Party (with Kids in the Mix)

By hospitality contributor Sandy Coughlin of The Reluctant Entertainer.

Summer entertaining is a beautiful time to get together with friends who have kids because you can be together in the outdoors and the kids can run and play.

I think back to the last house we lived in and the fun we had with our neighbors and all of their kids. Even though our house wasn’t big (1300 square feet), our kids had a blast playing outside on the trampoline, in the hot tub, making forts, and riding their bikes. The adults could sit around and visit while the kids ran and played.

After hours of play outside, sometimes my kids eventually resorted indoors to play video games or veg out watching a movie (which was fine with me), but overall, they found ways to be entertained.

My goal was to make our guests feel warm and welcome, include the little kids, and to be a catalyst for relaxation and connection.

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10 steps to courageous hospitality

Sometimes hospitality requires more courage than we think we possess. Maybe you could raise your hand and say, “Yes, I could use a dose of more courage.”

I’ve often shied away from courage, because I knew that it could be disruptive to my life; that it would knock me out of my safety zone. To be honest, I really like comfort.
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Food that feeds the body and nourishes the soul

Some nights you’ll find me in the kitchen doubling up a dish. This is because I’m either freezing one for my family, or I’m getting ready to take a meal to a family in need.

Hospitality covers the whole range of life experiences and emotions.

For me, some of these life experiences and feelings have come in challenging times, like when I had my children (who are now teens), when my husband and I lost three parents within a five year period, and when I had several surgeries.

Friends rallied together and gave me one of the most thoughtful gifts: They brought my family a meal. They fed our bodies and nourished our souls with their generous love for us.

Taking a meal to others in need happens often in churches, but it’s not just church people who we should look out for. Our world is full of need.

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How to be a Guest in Someone Else’s Home

After a few posts talking about how to prepare your home for guests, several of you commented that you were going to be the guests this week. So to celebrate this week of Thanksgiving (at least here in America), I’m republishing this post, first written on December 18, 2009. I just tweaked it a bit to change the time frame. Enjoy!

With Thanksgiving Day a mere three days away, many of you might be heading out of town soon. Your week’s plans may include laundry, packing, and closing up the home for the next few days. Or if you’re staying home, there’s a likely chance you’re about to welcome guests in to your home life for the next few days or weeks.

If not now, then perhaps you’ve got travel plans for Christmas, or anticipate a slew of guests sometime in December.

No matter what, being a guest or hosting a guest can be stressful.

Contributor Corey Allan wrote some great tips last year about how to handle in-law stress over the holidays. Just last week, I shared some of my tips for hosting overnight guests at home. Mandi also shared her ideas for maintaining your home’s order during the holidays. Last Thanksgiving, I also wrote about helpful tips for taking a big vacation with small children, after returning from our first major family vacation to Paris.

Today, I’ll focus on some ideas for being a gracious guest, and how to keep your family sane and unified while staying in someone else’s home.

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