Q&A Tuesday: what’s your favorite section in a bookstore?

One of my favorite indulgences is a few solitary hours in a bookstore, coffee in hand.  I haven’t done that since we moved overseas, because 1. the English sections of bookstores here are pretty miniscule (as to be expected, of course), and 2. people here don’t walk around with coffee drinks – you sit down and drink them.

So this is something I am giddily anticipating.  The first opportunity for some alone time, and I know exactly what I’ll be doing.

My question for you today:

You have two hours alone in a bookstore.  No kids.  No agenda.  What section in the store do you investigate first, and what types of books do you settle in to explore?

Feel free to share specific books you’ve loved recently!

Keep your spending tidy with an envelope system

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Photo by Fransesca Pageo

We use cash for most of our day-to-day purchases.  A lot of this has to do with where we’re currently living – not as much is online, and not many mom-n-pop stores here take plastic – but even stateside, we rely a lot more on cash than on plastic.  I’m not here to debate the security issues of using a debit card versus cold hard cash (maybe I’ll dip a toe in that water one day), but overall, I can positively say that using old-fashioned cash with the tried-and-true envelope system for everyday purchases works well for us.

The Benefits of Cash

• You can’t spend money you don’t have. Many bank accounts provide overdraft protection, so even with a debit card, it’s easier to go over your account balance than you think.

• You’re more aware of what you’re spendingif you’re using an envelope system, that is.  Yes, it’s unbelievably easy to let cash slip through your fingers when you’re not paying attention to it.  It can be slightly easier to keep track of purchases with a bank statement.  But if you’re willing to keep a daily record of what you’re spending, it’s not hard to keep track of cash at all – and you save money in the process.

• It hurts more to spend cash, so you don’t spend as much. I’ve heard Dave Ramsey say this before, and I think it’s true – it’s a bit numbing to swipe your card at the store.  But it’s more painful to pull out a wad of 20-dollar bills to pay for those jeans.  You’re more likely to think through your purchases, and therefore, not spend money where you just don’t need to.

An Envelope System, Simplified

Here’s how we create our envelope system.

(Note: my husband receives his salary just once monthly, so we have a pretty cut-and-dry monthly budget.  If you get paid every two weeks, it would probably be easier to create a workable system where you fill and spend envelopes according to your paycheck.  In other words, work with your cash flow, not with a system that you think you should have.)

1.  About a week before the new month, we create our next month’s budget (we use Pear Budget).

2.  When our salary hits our account (and we can predict down to the hour when the money will appear), we act immediately.  Basically, on payday, one of my household management tasks is our bank accounts.

3.  I look at our monthly budget, and total how many of those categories we’ll spend in cash.  That’s how much money we need to withdraw from our bank.

4.  I leave a couple hundred in the account to serve as padding for bank and bill mistakes (and for us, we also need padding for fluctuating exchange rates).  I also make sure to leave enough money for our online bills and expenses.  But then, I go ahead and withdraw enough cash to fill our envelopes, right then and there.

We fill our envelopes with the cash needed for each of these categories (which we figured out when we did our monthly budget).  When the cash runs out, that’s it for that category.

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Keeping Track of it All

Let’s say I need to hit up the grocery store for my regular weekly trip.  I take a generous amount of cash from the grocery envelope (though not all of it), put it in my wallet, and head to the store.  If I’m not replenishing an enormous amount of groceries, I keep a general till in my head as I shop; otherwise, I pencil in a rough amount on my grocery list.  I usually round up, to be safe.  The reason I don’t put the exact amount down to the cent is because I’m rather an idiot at math – I keep it simple so that I can total it up in my head.

Because I’ve kept track of my grocery selections, I’m confident of my estimated total as I head to the register.  I pay in cash, and I immediately label the receipt “groceries” before putting it in my wallet.

When I get home, I empty my receipts and put them in our designated spot near the front door. As I mentioned in my ebook, we have a landing spot for things like keys, sunglasses, and shoes by the front door.  Well, we also have a receipt dump.

Once a week, I take all our receipts, which are (hopefully) all labeled with our expense categories.  I then enter them in to our Pear Budget account, complete with appropriate tags to keep track of our categories.  And of course, I also enter our online expenses and income, too.

Spending Money

You might remember when I described how we create our zero-based budget that we specifically have categories designated as free spending money.  It’s not much, but both my husband and I each get a set amount each month to spend on whatever – coffee is usually my purchase of choice.  We put this money directly in our wallets, and we make sure to keep that separate when we have money from another envelope. When our spending money is gone, it’s gone until the next month.

A Few Answers to Predictable Questions

Q: Are they real envelopes?

Pretty much.  They’re plastic zippered pencil pouches, and we keep all of them together in a basket on our desk.  They’re labeled with each of our categories:

  • groceries – this includes anything we’d get at the grocery store, such as toiletries
  • household – this is different from one month to the next, but it includes things like a new bath mat, or a printer cartridge, perhaps
  • public transportation – metro, bus, and taxi fares (it’d be the equivalent of gas for those of you with cars)
  • dining out & family fun – restaurants, movie rentals, perhaps a fun treat for the kids, like a trip to the zoo

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Q: Do you carry around a ton of cash?

No.  We leave our cash at home, and take it with us when we’re purposely going out to spend the money.  Yes, there are times when we’re out that we need to make an unexpected purchase – but it’s not often.  An envelope system curbs our impulse purchasing power, which is one of the real benefits.  But when it does happen, we either use cash from another category, then adjust accordingly when we get home; or we use our debit card, and label the receipt with that category name immediately before putting it into our wallet.

Q:  What about unexpected things?

Real life happens, of course, and there might be times when we need more grocery or transportation money than we thought.  In that case, we juggle money around from the other envelopes.  It’s good to stay flexible, but the money has to come from somewhere.  As much as I’d like it, my superpower is not making money magically appear, and our family doesn’t use credit cards.  It’s only logical that if we need more grocery cash, then we either need to make more money, or take it from another category.

Q:  What if you spend money on more than one category at the same store?

I don’t split hairs over it – I just spend cash for one purchase, then make a note on the receipt of what was from a different category.  For instance, if I bought household supplies at Target, and while I was there I bought a DVD for our family, I simply tick the DVD on the receipt as “family fun,” and enter that separately on our budget record.  I’m hoping that Pear Budget will soon be able to split receipts into multiple categories, like the painfully overloaded Quicken.

I know that in this digital age, spending cash is almost considered a faux pas.  That’s okay with me, though – we spend less money when we do, and that’s more important.  We’ve never lost the money, and since the envelopes are only for a few spending categories, it’s not as much money around our house as you might think.

Thanks to ING Direct’s incredible ability to create umpteen jillion accounts for free, we pretty much use the envelope system for our online purchases as well.  The system is called sinking funds, and we have individual online savings accounts, all with ING, labeled things like Christmas, clothing, and giving.  As we spend money online from our checking account, we simply transfer the exact funds from the appropriate savings account.  It’s beautifully simple, really.

Do you use cash for anything anymore?  If so, do you use an envelope system to keep track of it?  What’s worked for you? I’d love to hear.

Link love :: the I Love Color edition

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If you’ve never explored ColourLovers, you’re missing out on a treat.  I get so much of my design inspiration there – oodles of great color combos!

There was a lot of good stuff in my reader this week. Which, coincidentally, brings me to question asked by reader Laura:

“I’ve told you before that I love the Link Love posts. So my question is: how do you collect them?”

Laura, I collect them using a very scientific method of browsing the internet. No, really – most of them are from blogs I subscribe to, but I also sometimes enjoy links your fellow readers send me in Delicious (by bookmarking something with the tag “for:simplemom”). I also use Stumble Upon, though I rarely have time to stumble upon anything new, ironically, and I do enjoy the community on Twitter – sometimes I’ll follow a link they recommend. Other than that, it’s plain-and-simple feed reading.

Now, on to my favorite finds from the week…

Food & Drink

Green & Frugal Living

Making Your Home a Haven

Kids & Parenting

Money Management

Organizing

Productivity

Taking Care of Yourself

  • Snacks for Mom :: Mom Advice (the comments provide some great ideas)
  • Be the Best, Be Discovered :: Skelliewag (One of my top three favorite blogs about blogging and writing.  I’ve learned much from her.)

Sharing a room: is it okay for brothers and sisters?

Reader Laine asks, “My daughter is five and my son is three. If we were to find a three bedroom home for rent (like we live in now), what are your thoughts on putting the children together in one room and having the other room as a playroom/schoolroom. Have you ever tried anything like this? At first it sounds like a good idea, but then I think they need their own space and privacy.”

An excellent question, Laine, and I’m sure one all of us with at least one boy and one girl have debated.  Is it okay for them to share a room?  If so, when is it too old? And if you plan on having a small home long-term, like us, it’s an issue not likely to fade away anytime soon in your family.

Right now, our kids, one girl and one boy, are sharing a room. Actually, you could say they’re sharing two rooms, because we’ve got a “sleeping room” and a “play room,” and they equally share both.  But – they are almost 4-years-old and 9-months-old.  They’re young.

For us, sharing rooms was not really an issue of space-saving, because if we put their beds and toys in separate rooms, we’d still have about the same amount of available square-footage.

Here are some reasons we like them sharing a room.

I want them to bond.

Yes, I know they can bond in separate rooms, but there’s something special – almost magical – about fading to sleep in the same room.  They actually seem to sleep a bit better when they’re in there together, and as our son grows into a toddler, I can see his big sister being a comfort to him.  Even as a baby, he likes it when he can see big sis in her bed.

They want to share rooms.

Right now, they’re crazy about each other.  I’d be crazy not to take advantage of that. We really hyped up the idea of moving little brother’s crib in to our daughter’s room.  She thought it was such a special treat.

We have very few personal toys.

My daughter has a few dolls that are her own, and my son obviously has his baby toys.  But other than that, it’s a high priority for our family that toys are seen as the family’s toys.  All the blocks, the train set, the stuffed animals, the art supplies, the books, the puzzles – everyone shares them.  So when they’re in the play room, they’re not seen as “my” toys.  We’ll definitely make a point to keep a few toys special, especially as they grow older.

It’s good to learn to share at a young age.

I want to dilute the idea of I‘m more important, I deserve more than I have, I demand more solitude than I’m allotted, I, I, I.  Yes, we all need our personal space, and of course, I want my children to nurture themselves with good-quality alone time when they need it.  But far too often, kids are given too much at a young age, and then it’s hard to “reel them back in,” relationally-speaking, when they’re older.  I like the idea of my children feeling secure as a significant part of our family, a bit more than feeling like an independent person who can do anything she wants.  Especially at this young age.

When will they separate to their own rooms?

I honestly don’t know.  They’re very young, and I don’t have much experience with older children, so others can certainly chime in with their opinion.  But for now, this set-up really works for our family, and we’re all happy with it.  We’ll take it a day at a time.

What’s your opinion?  Do your kids of opposite genders share?  Did you share a room growing up? I’d love to hear a variety of takes on this issue.  What if you had all the space you needed for separate rooms for everyone – would you still do it?

Blissdom, the Hottest Mom, and the Domestic Goddess Herself


Photo by Christel Weixelman

Three quick items of business today…

1. Blissfully Domestic’s First Conference

BlissDom08If you haven’t yet heard, Blissfully Domestic is hosting its first conference, BlissDom ’08. It’s all day October 18 in Nashville, followed by a fabulous cocktail party, where it is rumored there will be served a lovely new pink drink called a blisstini. That should be reason enough for you to go.

The best part about this conference? It’s free. That’s right – absolutely free. It is limited to the first 75 people who sign up, so you won’t want to miss this.

I’m honored to be one of the speakers, along with some other fabulous women bloggers, such of Megan at Velveteen Mind, Busy Mom, and of course, the wonderful Alli of Fussypants.

Registration begins tomorrow at 9 a.m. CST. I have a feeling seats will fill quickly, so make a point to be there right on time if you’d like to make it.

I hope as many Simple Mom readers as possible can be there – I’d love to meet you all!

2. Martha’s Latest Venture

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And also, in case you (possibly) live under a rock, Martha Stewart has launched a blog, and has invited bloggers to submit their site for consideration by the Domestic Goddess herself. Go sign up if you haven’t yet – and if you don’t have a blog, then maybe you can go over there and put in a good word for Simple Mom.

3. Blogger’s Choice Awards

My site was nominated for Best Parenting Blog!
Finally, Simple Mom was nominated for a few categories in the Blogger’s Choice Awards. You can click on the buttons in the sidebar to sign up and cast your vote. Though I have to say – “Hottest Mommy Blogger” is a bit much!