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You can do something just for you

Question for you lovely readers: what does it mean when you’re reading a hilarious blog post by the inimitable Jen Hatmaker, laughing so hard that you’re crying, and you suddenly begin sobbing instead?

I’m talking about ugly, shoulders-shaking, snot-dripping sobbing, and your six-year-old daughter comes in and pats you on the back, saying, it’s ok, mama, it’s ok?

I’ll tell you what it means: it means you’re tired. You’re exhausted. You have probably been running on autopilot for so long that when you finally stopped and experienced some sort of strong emotion, you just lost it.

That was me last week. Ever been there? I’m sure I will be there again someday. So what do you do when you hit a wall?
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Embrace summer: let go of imperfections

As you start this new week, may you learn to let go of imperfections. When your child invites a neighbor to come over, or shows up with a car full of teens, be mindful of the gifts that surround you as they come into the house or out into the yard or the pool.

Learn to not look around at the things that are wrong – your house a wreck, your agenda messed with, your to-do list not complete, the food you may need to provide.

Instead, embrace the beauty of summer. Sprinklers, popsicles, chips and popcorn. Pool time, hot sunny days, and floating schedules. People, babies, toddlers, tweens and teens.

My daughter reminded me, Mom, you love to have people over. I quickly changed my bad attitude, as it had caught me off guard when they all showed up. I said, Baby, it’s not about perfection, it’s about being given notice.

But do I really need notice? Spontaneous can be good.

The years go by quickly, they are fleeting and fast, and before you know it, you’ll have a pool that never gets used, or a patio that gets dusty, and deep inside you’ll long for the years when you were needed and people wanted to be in your home.

Learn to embrace summer, the carefree days, a floating agenda, the freedom and beauty of children.

Share what’s on hand, and set aside your angst for their joy.

Summertime is a great time to remember that there are some things that are way more important than waiting for the perfect moment.

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Weekend links

Favorited Instagram of the week (head here to follow me!):

When @joythebaker offers to make you dinner, you say yes.

When @joythebaker offers to make you dinner, you say yes.

“It was June, and the world smelled of roses. The sunshine was like powdered gold over the grassy hillside.” -Maud Hart Lovelace, Betsy-Tacy and Tib

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Reaching for bites of appetizers and encouragement

Our friends are encouragers. They just know what to say, how to ask the right questions, and how to show they care.

So when we’re invited to their house for dinner, we know that our little encouragement tanks will be filled up with creativity, inspiration, and kind words. That is a good feeling. It makes us better people, spouses, parents, friends.

How was our day? What’s new in our life? Have we thought about this or that? How can we encourage you?

It’s more than a meal. We always come together out by the fire over some tasty wine and an array of healthy appetizers before dinner.
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Poem: Capitulation

I’ve had more bedtime battles with my kids than I can count.

Going to sleep can be such a difficult transition for kids: learning to let go of the togetherness and even the mental consciousness of the waking hours. And as a mom, I’m usually so done by the end of the day, that I’m hardly at my best, parenting-wise.

The following poem is one that I shared last summer, about the difficulties that one of my kids, in particular, has with bedtime. [Read more...]